I appreciate your comment. It’s helpful to hear what others think here.

Thank you. I appreciate that. It was a lot of work, and long-form blogging isn’t popular. So I appreciate knowing people are finding it worthwhile.

The lack of any evidence and argument for that assertion tells me you are letting your feelings replace facts. Feelings don’t care about your facts. So, you must face those facts, no matter how upsetting.

you are wrong

Note the only reason I include “white” here is that, at least in America (for complex historical reasons), a particular mixture of racism and sexism is commonplace, producing a synergy between white identity and male identity: they reciprocally amp each other up. It is thus important to understand their tight relationship (see this article for an introduction to this phenomenon).

But the general idea of “male grievance” (as also “white grievance”) is a culture and mindset whereby men (qua men) complain about things and blame others for those things, when they have the wrong conception of what is even causing those things. They have “grievances” not legitimate complaints. And they center their grievances egoistically (it drives most of their ideology). And this then becomes a domain of code words and dogwhistles: where someone will see a sentence and interpret it through the lens of that cultural perspective.

Thus “it does not feel safe or acceptable for a boy or man to be just who he is” is a dogwhistle: it is a coded, indirect way to appeal to (and thus activate) this grievance culture, so that the writer and his aggrieved reader know what he means, but the author retains plausible deniability should anyone else criticize what he really meant (he can then claim he “didn’t really mean that”). This is a well known psychological and rhetorical phenomenon and it is a red flag for bigoted or toxic ideologies. It thus raises an eyebrow and is a subject of concern. It is possible Glover is oblivious to this and did mean something else. But that’s still a problem. Because it means what he “really meant” won’t be what many of his readers heard him say.

For more on white male grievance culture as a phenomenon see the EverybodyWiki entry on Grievance Politics and its bibliography. For examples see my article A Bayesian Analysis of Susannah Rees’s Ishtar-in-the-Manosphere Thesis and Edward Lempinen’s article “Loss, fear and rage: Are white men rebelling against democracy?” for the Berkeley News, as well as Eric Madfis’ sociological study “Triple Entitlement and Homicidal Anger: An Exploration of the Intersectional Identities of American Mass Murderers” and Leigh Paterson’s updated observations from it in “Many Mass Shooters Share A Common Bond: Male Grievance Culture” for NPR (those authors apply the cultural phenomenon as an explanation of a more isolated phenomenon of mass shooting, but in result they document and illustrate the wider culture that generates those extremists).

My conclusions logically follow from the actual evidence. His do not.

That’s the difference.